It’s normal to feel nervous about sharing significant news like pregnancy with your partner, but what is the root of your fear?
Each situation is different. Continue reading to learn tips for various situations, or schedule a free and confidential appointment at First Care Clinic for free pregnancy support in person.
See if you can relate to the following statements. We hope this information can help you navigate sharing your pregnancy news with your partner.
“I’m Afraid the News Will Jeopardize My Relationship.”
One fear could be that your partner will leave or break up with you after finding out you’re pregnant. While this can happen, know that a supportive, loyal partner will stand by your side no matter what. You deserve a healthy relationship; if this jeopardizes your relationship, this partner might not be the one for you.
“I’m Afraid of How the Conversation Will Go.”
You may not think your partner will leave, but conflict or confrontation makes you uncomfortable. You’re not sure how he might react, so it’s tempting to keep your pregnancy a secret.
Sometimes, these conversations can feel like ripping a bandaid off, but the sooner you share, the sooner you can move forward. If your relationship has been healthy, there’s a chance the conversation could go better than you expected.
If you’re nervous that the conversation could escalate into an argument or blame, bring a support person with you or tell your partner over the phone.
“I’m Afraid He Will Pressure Me Into an Option I Don’t Want.”
Perhaps you think your partner will be supportive, but he tends to be opinionated and pushy. Maybe you think he’ll try to pressure or persuade you into an option you wouldn’t want.
Remember that as the pregnant woman, the outcome of your pregnancy is ultimately up to you; he can’t force you to do anything you don’t want. However, for the health of your long-term relationship, you should listen to what he has to say.
Communicate your feelings about your options with him, and be honest. Share your perspective, and maybe you can reach a consensus.
“I’m Afraid He Will Verbally or Physically Abuse Me.”
If you believe your partner’s reaction could spiral into verbal or physical abuse, you must take major precautions when you share the news. Have a support person with you when you tell him, either in a public place or over the phone. Calling him from a place that’s not your primary residence or an undisclosed location can prevent him from showing up in person afterward.
However, you don’t have to tell your partner anything if you feel unsafe. Instead, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline to discuss your situation and find help.
Abuse of any kind is never acceptable. You deserve to be safe.
Confirm Your Pregnancy at First Care Clinic
Before sharing the news, confirm your pregnancy is progressing and learn how far along you are. Knowing the details will prevent false alarms and help you understand your options.
You can also chat with a caring staff member about your situation and prepare for your conversation with your partner.
We’re here to help. Contact First Care Clinic today.